Sarcasm and Teenagers: A guideline for fogeys and youths Interactions

small_377This is a real milestone when our children be able to get to the age that they can cause us to be laugh by whatever they say on purpose! Often with smaller children we tease what they say by accident, and they’re pleased but uncertain concerning what was funny and why. As children be able to older elementary school they learn skills and life lessons that they will turn into humor.
Often older kids and teens emulate adults and work with sarcasm to produce a joke, or create a point. This is usually a valuable skill and should not be squashed. Neither should we ignore it run rampant over conversations and people!
It is essential to show a young adult you value his humor and intelligence but want him to discover if this is and is not appropriate to use. Many ‘twins and teens test out sarcasm and some tend to have a real flair with it! Also, it may be part of acceptable joking around behavior as part of your family.
Like any edgy conversation (teasing, joking, even swearing), teens should learn when and as NOT to engage. He may make use of sarcasm really successfully with your buddies and also to good effect, but needs to know to leave it in the hallway in college or he could’ve some big trouble.
For any teenage behavior change, it works preferable to be very clear regarding the goal. First ask your partner. Can it be OK with both of you he practices sarcasm at your home sometimes? Hash this out just grownups first. You may decide he isn’t mature enough still to follow only on the “right” occasions so you want him to end (as part of your hearing) all the time. Understand that the person is unlikely to stop entirely. You certainly will teach him important life lessons if you select to help him about when you should read this, versus forbidding the behavior entirely.
Now sit with him for a couple minutes (plus your co-parent when possible) and tell him you really appreciate his humor and smarts but need to teach him the skill of once it is and isn’t Fine use sarcasm when speaking to an adult. Decide (with your teen’s help) on a nonverbal cue which you can use if he is being smart-alecky instead of smart, like a hand on his arm or (if he isn’t a toucher immediately) grabbing your own individual ear lobe for getting a minute. Then they have the option to produce a conversational do-over, meaning he can express precisely the same idea but more respectfully. If he can start again without using the edge in his words or voice, you’ll continue the conversation just as if nothing happened.
When you find that you are speaking with him about this, be honest with him exactly what the consequence will be if he does not use the do-over chance but continues disrespectful. You may automatically deny his request if he can’t speak respectfully. He may miss his next social outing. He may be excused from the table no matter if he is starved (this choice really bothers teen boys!).
In this manner you are not stepping on his creativity and humor, but you are requiring respectful communication and helping him learn how and the moment he can joke. Also, they have the opportunity becoming a good example for every single younger sister or brother so that you don’t hear smart-alecky teenage stuff beginning with the mouths of babes!